Can earning RM 3000 in Malaysia take care of your girlfriend

Hey everyone. It has been a very very long time since I started updating this blog. Initially, this blog was supposed to be an educational blog where I post up my assignments and stuff. But nowadays since I've graduated uni, I feel like there is another need of this blog. Well, the main purpose of me maintaining this blog is mainly to keep track of my writing skills. I do have a personal blog where it is a place for me to nag about stuff. 

So let's get straight to the point. Can a men earning RM 3000 in Malaysia take care of his girlfriend. Well, some of you may ask, why do you write such a thing? To be honest, when I was watching a video yesterday and something pique my interest. The content of the video was Can you take care of your girlfriend if your salary is at RMB 5000. The results of the survey wasn't really shocking. 70% of the China lady said that it is not even enough. They all said that they need more than 10k a month to survive. 

I was like WHUTTTTTT? But when I heard their reasons, it is even more funny. Some have pets who spends like 3-4k a month. Some need make up products, some want bags and those secondary things. Well, it is quite funny. Do you need all those things from a men? Your pet you also want your bf to take care? The bf main job is to take care of you not the pet. Another 30% of the participants are those realistic once. They said that maybe it is enough and some even said why use the money of the men when they can earn themselves. 

So after I watched the video, I did a simple survey on Facebook naming, Can you take care of your girlfriend when you earn RM 3000. Well, it is actually same as earning 5k RMB. So I tried asking and the answer I got was kind of to my surprise. One of my friend from uni posted something like "Why gf can't take care of themselves?". I mean, her point of view was actually quite good. We discussed about it and I got a piece of her mind. She was talking about gender equality in the world. 

As gender equality have become such an important matter in the world, we would always associate gender equality to feminism. Women should have the same pay as men. Women should have this, should do that. But imagine this. When everyone is saying this, what about the men? When women achieved gender equality, what about those men who worked as hard? When we talked about gender equality, it means equality for both sides, oh well if you considered those who are gender-less. Hahahahaha. If what we fight for today, would not bring peace around the world, why fight for it? 

A lot of feminist think that fighting for gender equality means that I would fight for what is right for me and my gender. But doesn't it go back to the word gender? Gender equality means that we would fight for the equality of human beings regardless of whether they are men, women or trans. If you are not fighting for that, and you kept saying that gender equality is for female only, then you can go and drown yourself in the sea. We do not need you to fight for the equality. 

So back to the problem. From my point of view, I think that this matter, it has become a norm for women out there with what I called, Princess Syndrome. In short PS. So what is PS? It generally means that those women, who do not work hard for what they want, and they would constantly request their parents, their bfs, and their siblings to pay for what they want. They would just 'manja' a bit to their partner and they would do it. 

So when we look at these things, sometimes I just feel like slapping those people. You want something, why not work hard for it? Why ask the men to work hard for you? They work hard for you, bought you all those things, and does it meant that he loves you? Are you a leech? To what extend you want to suck those energy and money out of them? 

Often, all these women are always associated with gender equality. They would always say, men are earning more than us, so they SHOULD take care of us. Well, I mean, if by taking care means he look after you when you are sick, buy you porridge when you need, be there for you when you are facing hard times when you are at work, those I agree. But by taking care you mean buy you Prada, Gucci, YSL, LV, Burberry, iPhone, well then you can again drown yourself in the sea. 

Those things are really what I called material stuff. Do you need those to show people how much you have? Is posting on Instagram with the pictures of you going out to a very expensive dinner something that would make you proud? Would having a LV bag make you rich? Answer, NO. Those are just social expectations of what you perceive. Those things, are what you want people to see. It is not important. Why can't you just let go of all of those and live as a normal couple? 

After talking for so much, I feel that, well you know, if you know how to manage your finances, earning 3k in Malaysia is definitely enough for you to take care of yourself and girlfriend. But if you want to have a family, that is not entirely enough. Readers, what do you guys think? Give me some feedback let me know what you thought about. 

Signing off, 

YiXin Ching. 

Professionalism

So what I am gonna discuss today here is Professionalism.

What does Professionalism actually means?

So by Merriam-Webster Online Dictionary, professionalism is the conduct, aims, or qualities that characterize or mark a profession or a professional person. Well, at different stage of our lives, we have to be professional in and when we are doing something. For example, when we are discussing about a worker sweeping the floor, his professionalism is to keep the place clean and making sure that there are no rubbish on the floor. If he does that, it means that he is professional.

People may ask. Why are you discussing this topic anyway? Is there any use of discussing about this? My answer is, Yes. It is really important to discuss this topic as a lot of the younger generations especially the 90's (no offence here), not all, but a lot of them, do not posses the quality of being called as professionals. Many a times, one single person holds a lot of roles in his or her life. Like me for example. I am a student, a son to my parents, a brother to my siblings, a counsellor to my friends, a mentor to my students and a lot more. Which means that I have to be professional at a lot of things.

Like being a student, by defining myself as professional, I have to attend to classes, finish up the tasks that was given by the lecturers, helping out my friends to complete the tasks and meeting deadlines for the task given. A lot of students do not understand this but, when we do something, we have to do it wholeheartedly. Take it as a chance and take it as when you are completing your work. If you are not professional in it, you will get scolding and even worse, offend someone else.

So again, why am I talking about this? Well, the story started a few days ago. If you guys followed my Facebook or my Instagram, I have been posting pictures while I was in Ao Nang, Krabi. Why I wanted to say this is because, I was sent to this trip by my lecturer with two of my assignment mates. Throughout the whole journey, I find that they do not posses as what I would call 'professional'. I am sorry to offend you guys if you read this but I find it hard to tell you on the face. So I will just say out everything here.

Being a student. We are obliged to complete all of our assignments, even if the assignment requires us to travel. Travelling is so damn fun, but at the same time, we went there for a trip for the assignment. So the interesting part goes. I am okay with you guys going to the pubs, drinking and dancing whole night. I really do. I had fun that night myself. But, didn't we have a plan before going to Thailand? We made plans so that we can complete everything within two days and we all can go have fun. We were supposed to follow that.

What is the case here is that, first, this trip is SUPPOSED to be an assignment trip. Why the hell did another human joined us and was planning everything for us. Yes I know he travels a lot and he is very knowledgeable. But he screwed up the whole plan. I have no idea why. You all said you guys wanna go, I followed. But the trips is getting too much and yes, I admit, I spend quite a lot myself. So I did not save up for the trips. But our main purpose here is to do assignment then trip.

Ok. To make the story short, I will be listing down some of the things that I feel is not being professional.

1. This is an assignment trip. Do you think that it is appropriate to bring your boyfriend/girlfriend? And when everything is being planned out so nicely, he/she had something to say and the whole team has to follow. 
2. Do you even read the questions before the interviews? Did you even pay any attention in the class? Have you ever wondered why our interview questions have to be reviewed by the lecturer? 
3. I as a Qualitative Researcher To Be knows what to ask and what not to ask. If you don't know how to ask, please do check online where there are wide variety of interviewing videos that can be learned from. If you never know how, I urge you to read up and watch some videos before commenting. IF you said something without any proof or evidence, the statement is basically not valid. So, please refrain yourself from saying things like: "If you ask like that people will think that you think they are dumb". 
4. I seriously doubt you as a student, even worse, as a media student. Have you ever learned how to use a camera? Have you ever watched videos on learning how to shoot a nice video? Have you ever considered that it is important when we shoot something, we have to make sure that the thing is not blurry and it is clear for people to see? If you have not, I suggest that you go and retake the subject in the uni under the Subject Code of SM 109, BASIC PHOTOGRAPHY. Clearly when you are doing the assignment, you had help from other people.
5. Being in a group, it is important that you respect what people have to say. But instead, you only want your voice to be heard. You do not respect other members in the group. 

Above is the 5 things that I think is really unprofessional. First, please don't mix your private affairs with your assignment. Second, please do make sure that you read everything that was posted in any of the group. If those information is not important, why the hell did I put it up and let you guys have a look? Third, please remember to read up enough information about what you are going to do. Yes. The information of the place is important. But is it not important that you understand how to interview people? Forth, when we are doing any assignment, it is our own duties and responsibilities, not other people's, not your friends', not your parents' but it is OUR OWN RESPONSIBILITY. 

If you can't see, I will enlarge it for you. 

OUR OWN RESPONSIBILITIES!!!

Do not tell me ever again that you will ask your friend to do it. The consequence of constantly asking help is that even the basics you do not know how to do. You can't even function a camera properly. You don't know what is the depth of field, you don't understand what is aperture, you have no single idea of how to use the manual focus and you failed as a student. You never bothered to learn even the simplest thing while you are studying in the university. Not that I am saying that everyone needs to learn how to function a camera, but it is important for us who studied media to know. The things that you gave me are all blurry, out of focus. And you dare give it to me? If you say that you strive for the results, why can't I see it? Why can't I see you putting in efforts to make sure everything is alright? 

Fifth, you clearly have to learn how to listen. Not hearing, but listening. Learn to listen to what people has to say. Learn to be patient on what people wants to say. Learn to accept what people has to say. I know you are much older than me. But that does not mean that you are more knowledgeable or you are more capable than me. If you think that you are capable, prove it. Don't only know how to speak and when things does not go in your way, you blame other people. If one day when you are out in the society, you do not listen, you will lose a lot. When you don't listen, you can't even follow the simplest of the instructions that was given. And what use is that anyway? 

Ok. I am done ranting here. I really hope that you can change for the better. To that one single lady, thank you for letting me learn all these from you, so that I will not repeat what you did. I hope you can get a good grade and a good job soon. And I hope after this, I would not need to have anything to do with you. Good bye and hope I never need to be in a group with you ever again. 

Cheerios, 

By a very angry me,

YiXin.